Many of us have been in a slew of relationships over the years. Have you ever noticed that whether things go great or awful, it’s imperative that you maintain your individuality within that relationship. If you lose yourself within your partner, you can often times find yourself vulnerable to the whims, changes, choices, decisions and visions of that person. If you’re lucky, they’ll lead you to a path of bliss and success. If you’re unlucky, you could be on a road that you wouldn’t have otherwise traveled if you kept your wits about you.
So, when you’re feeling like you’re sinking into that feeling of falling in love, you must attempt to be at least a little logical, keep your eyes open and still keep your own life. Be true to yourself and trust yourself. If you’re your own best friend, you’ll always have someone there for you. This is true for both your partner, friends, family and children. Encourage them all to take part in this method self-love.
Love You Children by Loving Yourself
Next up: enter those little bundles of joy. We must employ the same stance when it comes to children as well. Have you heard of helicopter parent syndrome? This is the classic tale of where the parent becomes too wrapped up in their child, sometimes becoming disconnected from their own identity because they are simply trying too hard! Despite this often coming from a place of love and good intentions, it can be harmful for both the parent and the child, delaying and derailing the necessary chapters of growth for both parties.
It can be hard when you’re adjusting to a newborn, as your entire life all of a sudden revolves around them. This will only lead to years of problems down the line so it must be handled immediately.
Finding the Balance
Here comes the tricky part. How do we avoid this and allow everyone in the family to be their very own unique selves? This should begin from day one when your newborn enters your home. If you have the luxury of having a full time partner in your home, be sure to share the care of your child, both together and separately. It’s crucial for each person to bond in varying degrees, as an entire family unit, as a father, as grandmother and beyond. When your partner is making some wonderful one-on-one memories with your newborn, this is your time to make it all about you.
Hit the spa, or the beach, or even go for a walk around the block with your headphones. If you’d like, you can even make the spa come to you with a few bath salts and meditation music. Consider making a promise with your partner that every Tuesday is your night to hide-out for a few hours in the basement’s living room. You’d be amazed at how rejuvenating this will be for both you and your family members. You’ll have a new appreciation for everyone around you after you’re able to quiet your mind a bit without any distractions. Encourage your partner to keep up their hobbies and habits, as well. This will bond the two of you even further and will allow you to share responsibilities without becoming burdened or unappreciated.
It’s the little things that do wonders for us. Healing and resting is incredibly underrated. Once we become parents, we do not automatically become superheros. After all, we’re just grown up little ones and we still need the same care that they do, we’re just get used to not getting it. We all need proper sleep, food, shelter and love. Taking care of yourself will allow you to be a better, stronger and more fit parent.
